inequalities start at home

'salam all..

you know how i like to reads about psychology sociology and motivational sort of book. Why people act the way they do, how does, environment, background does affect ones life or character.. all of this is quite fascinating to explore. so, whenever i read these books, i tried to relate it to the people around me to determine whether the fact is true. and it is surprisingly true i tell you.and when it does, it made me digging even deeper about the facts...curiosity does kills the cat huh?( i did mention this phrase a long time ago) Anyway, 1 of the facts that really gets me want to write a blog (hah!) is about the comparison of characteristic and surprisingly their future on their bith order... its hard not to notice the first born who always made the rules and the last born being the one who broke it...wheres the second born is? they always got stuck in the middle... sedey bukan? i always had the 2nd child syndrom..nak buat camne, dah anak kedua pun....huhuhuhu here are some of the major characteristic between the first born, second born, last born:-

FIRST-BORNS

According to Adler, first born children are driven to achieve, responsible, dependable, authoritative, dominant, and conservative. They can be insecure, jealous, sensitive, spoiled, stingy, and have a high dependancy and need for affection and praise. More than half of our US presidents were first borns.

Other famous first-borns include: Oprah Winfrey, Robert DeNiro, Harrison Ford, and Robin Williams. Click here a list of more famous first-born children. For a list of other first-borns click here: www.firstbornclub.com

SECOND-BORNS

Second children typically are allowed to be more independent and are able to create their own character. So they tend to be more adventuresome, fun loving and gregarious. They can also be rebellious and envious, but generally are well adjusted.

MIDDLE CHILDREN

Middle children have many of the same characteristics as the second child, but are often plagued by feelings of parental neglect, inadequacy and inferiority. They tend to crave displays of affection, which is a further sign of their insecurity. It’s difficult for the middle child to establish a power base in the family. They tend to feel they are not loved as much and can never be better than their older sibling at anything they try.

Some famous middle borns include: George Washington, Madonna, David Letterman, and John F. Kennedy. One birth order expert says that CEOs may tend to be first-borns, but the entrepreneurs, the “mavericks” who go out and do things on their own are middle children…Bill Gates is a middle child.

LAST-BORN CHILDREN

Last-borns tend to be the most spoiled. Yet they are typically happy children. The rules in the household are the most relaxed for this child. They are typically given little family responsibility and rely on siblings to take care of them. As a result last-borns can be immature and irresponsible. Yet, because of the love that gets showered on the last child they tend to be confident and secure. They are usually likeable and free-spirited. That probably explains why many last borns are entertainers and comedians.

Some famous last borns: Jay Leno, Danny DeVito, Chevy Chase, Eddie Murphy, Jim Carey, Whoopie Goldberg, but also Margaret Thatcher…so you’ve got a lot of comedians but a strong leader too.

taken from: http://www.themommychroniclesshow.com/birthorder.html

and one of the reason of this differences is because parents way of parenting...some parents might be denying it, but as a non-married person poi nt of view (which will most likely to be taken seriously), I think it is quite true.

Parents love all their children equally, of course, but most of them admit that, after each baby, their standards tend to relax just a bit when it comes to the little things in life. Does any of this sound familiar?

Take for instance, Baby bottles:

First child: Not only do you have your bottles lined up neatly in your baby bottle cabinet, color coded for breast milk, formula, juice, and water, but you buy a sterilizing kit and routinely boil nearly everything that comes in contact with your baby's mouth.

Second child: You buy a convenient plastic rack to hold baby bottle lids and nipples, and pop everything in the dishwasher.

Third child: Remember the five-second rule for w hen a piece of food falls on the ground?

And then there are the Baby books:

First child: You record every coo and hiccup, and the pages are so full of memorabilia that the book won't shut.

Second child: You keep your baby book in a big storage box along with all of the important notes, scraps, and photos in hopes of one day finding time to record all the memorable moments.

Third child: Memorabilia gets hung on the refrigerator with a magnet and the baby book is still in its original wrapper, which proves to be ver y fortunate when you are invited to a friend's baby shower and find yourself at the last minute without a gift.

taken from: http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,5552,00.html

kan2..so, therefore, inequalities does starts at home. it is no one faults. it is in my opinion what u called the human behaviour. fitrah manusia. So, to parents, don't scold your children for behaving like the way they do. remember who starts it first.(sendiri pun kn ingat jugak)

Intersting findings about related topics are:

malaysian, for instance did their own research about a comparable topic, but it is not wise for us to believe it 100%, afterall its just a research. Dr. Fadzilah Kamsah pun ade kata, perkara2 ni harus salah. x semestinya betul. 1 thing i remember about Dr. Fadzilah kamsah is whenever he is on air with other guests, he sometimes like to ask their birthdate...might be because, he can actually know basically how to tackle each guests in an interview. you know, people born on the same month has a similarities in their characteristic. Dr. Fadzilah Kamsah also sisi a research about it.http://lukisanduniaku.wordpress.com/2008/03/19/19/ kalau google belambak kluar...


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p/s: seronok blaja pasal psychology ni. dpt th pasal diri sendiri n org lain..